I thought we were all past this. Why are we still keeping gay and lesbian couples from visiting each other in the hospital?

I thought we were past this. I thought this issue was resolved but apparently it isn’t. This week in Fresno – California, a lesbian partner was not allowed in to see her partner of 3 1/2 years in the hospital. If she had said she was the woman’s sister, aunt, or friend she would have been allowed to visit. But because she is in a relationship with the patient, it was not okay. Please, we all have to get over this. It is stressful and scary enough to be in the hospital when you are in a medical crisis. This is when we all need the love and support of the people we love. Put yourself in their shoes. Would you want a healthcare professional keeping you from seeing your sick loved one?  Would you want to wait outside while your loved one dies?  No you wouldn’t.  It is none of healthcare professional’s business who visits you in the hospital. If you believe in the Golden Rule, then please respect that others would want their loved ones to visit them just like you would and don’t let this happen at your hospital.

(FYI: The best way to make sure this doesn’t happen to you is if you write out your advance directive for healthcare decisions. You can write on this document who you would want and not want to visit you. Click on my resouce page for more information about your state’s advance directive form.)

Have a kind and respectful day.