How to Say No – Handout

November 25, 2013 by  
Filed under For Patients & Families

How to Say “No” Handout – author unknown but very much appreciated.

When you need additional time to think about your own needs:
1. I don’t have an answer on that so I’ll have to get back to you.
2. I’m not sure what I’m in the mood for. Let me check in with myself for a moment.
3. Let me check my calendar and get back to you.
4. I’ll have to see about that. How about I give you a call in a week of so?
5. I may have something else planned that day. I’ll let you know.
6. I feel overwhelmed this month. Can we talk about it again in a few weeks?
7. Let me do some thinking about it first. When do you need an answer?
8. That merits serious consideration. I’ll make a few calls and let you know.
9. That sounds good, but I’ll have to see what ___________ has planned for us first.
10. You’ll have my answer by five o’clock tomorrow.

When its time to say “No”:
1. I’m just not available next week.
2. I think I’ll have to take a rain check on that.
3. I won’t be in town. Can I help you come up with some alternatives?
4. I’ve decided I need a rest from that sort of thing, but thank you for asking.
5. I’m afraid I just can’t afford to right now.
6. I promised my family to spend more time with them. I am sure you understand.
7. Have you asked ___________ or ___________? Either one seem perfect for that job.
8. I’m flattered you asked for my help, but I am a bit overcommitted right now.
9. It’s been a rough week and I’m just not feeling up to it.
10. I’m taking myself on vacation. I’m sure you’ll find good volunteers for that.
11. Tomorrow? Oh, that’s short notice. I’m afraid I can’t make it.

Keep in mind that:
1. No excuses are necessary.
2. No apology is necessary.
3. It is quite possible to say, “No,” while being both courteous and polite.
4. Saying it like you mean it tends to prevent the other person from trying to talk you into it.