Shared Suffering – Doctors and Patients Are In This Together

I was speaking to a doctor the other day who is drowning under a sea of patients. He is expected to see 25 patients in the hospital per day as well as admitting those who are coming in through the emergency room. And what makes his day even harder is waking up each morning; knowing his day is already doomed. (This is a well-meaning, good doctor who is still fighting to take care of his patients in a broken system.)

The patients and families he sees are angry that they have had to wait so long. He ends up spending most of his valuable time explaining and apologizing for the delays rather than actually taking care of the patient. If you add up 5minutes of apologizing times 25 patients; that equal about 2 hours of his workday. No wonder he doesn’t have enough time. When he is over-booked, he loses minutes each time he walks into the room.

And unfortunately, even when patients are told that he is busy handling an emergency or life-or-death situation, the patient and/or family is upset about having to wait so long. I totally understand this. We all want to be seen right away and want our needs to be taken seriously. But I think we all need to face the reality of medicine today. Our doctors are overwhelmed and we are asking for more than is possible from them.

I know this is difficult to accept. Our standards and sense of entitlement have become so high that our expectations have outgrown the system. I am not saying that you shouldn’t advocate for your health, but please bring some patience with you in the process. Bring a book to read, a game to play or your phone charger with you so you can call your friends. Most of our doctors are really trying their best. Don’t waste your valuable minutes with the doctor complaining about the wait, but get right to the point and use your time wisely. You only get a few minutes with the doctor so use them well.

Have a kind and respectful day.