Viki Kind interviews Allan Hager, “Right at Home” on Sept. 8th, 9AM pacific on blogtalkradio.com/kindethics

Interview with Allen Hager and Right at Home. Right at Home is a national in home care and assistance agency. They provide trained, insured and bonded caregivers for a variety of elder care services. Whether it’s for extra assistance after a stay in the hospital, an aging parent who needs extra help or companionship to remain in their own home, or as a respite for a husband or wife who cares for an ailing spouse, Right at Home can help with home health care needs.

Right at Home’s home care services cater to a variety of in home care needs ranging from companion services to personal care to light skilled nursing.
Companion & Homemaker Services:

• Caring Companionship
• Medication Reminders
• Meal Preparation
• Shopping & Errand Services
• Light Housekeeping
• Laundry Services
• Bathing Assistance
• Family Respite Care
• Recreational Activities
• Personal Hygiene & Dressing Guidance
• Incoming Mail Organization
• Review with Family
• 24-Hour Emergency Response Personal Care Services:

• Bathing
• Walking Assistance
• Posture Positioning
• Continence Care
• Oral Hygiene
• Special Diet/Meal Preparation
• Eating Assistance
• Toileting Assistance

Right at Home care services are highly personalized and flexible. Right at Home caregivers can provide in home care from a little as a few hours a day to 24 hours a day. Whether it’s for extra assistance after a stay in the hospital, or to provide respite to a caregiving spouse, home care may be the solution for you. They’ll do everything they can to make sure you and your loved one are completely satisfied. Furthermore, they take great pride in making sure they fit the right caregiver with the right client.

Sign up for free, “Kindness Reminders” – Remember to connect with your loved ones.

The “Kindness Reminder” is a brief weekly email to remind you to connect with your aging parent or other loved ones. The reminder is full of touching and fun ways to reach out and connect.

A colleague said to me, “I love my grandmother but I keep forgetting to call her.  Can you send me an email once a week to remind me to call her and can you include some ideas of things I can do for her?”  When he asked me to create these reminders for him, I realized I have been doing this type of thing all my life. I used to call my brothers and remind them to call our dad. It wasn’t that they didn’t care; it was just that like all of us, we get caught up in our own lives.

People think I am amazing because I remember to call on birthdays or to call in once a week to check on my elders. I am not amazing, I am organized. I pre-book recurring appointments in my calendar so I it sends me reminders to call, write or show I care. Otherwise, it would slip my mind and weeks would go by before I would make the effort.

These email reminders will give you a number of ways to show that you care. I will also give you ideas on how to thank those who are taking care of your loved one when you are either far away or unable to be there. The more you show appreciation for those who take care of your loved one, the better care they will get.

Just sign up in the box in the upper right section of my blog at KindEthics.com. Thanks for helping me make the world a kinder place. Please let others know about this free service.

Have a kind and respectful day.

Create a caregiver manual to help you train your next caregiver.

Dear Viki,

I have to hire a new caregiver for my dad. I get so tired of having to take time off of work to train the new person. Is there anything I can do to make this easier?

Yes, I recommend creating a caregiver manual just like you might have an employee manual at work. The way to do this is when you are training this new caregiver, write down everything you are telling the new person. Write down things like how your dad likes his sandwich made or what time he takes his naps. Create categories such as food preferences, activity preferences, clothing preferences, schedule preferences, medications, allergies, emergency numbers etc. Whether you write it down in a notebook or on the computer, keep adding to it as you train the person. Then give the new caregiver a copy so they can refer back to it. You can also ask the caregiver to write notes in it as things change or as she/he learns new things about your dad. This way, the next time you have to hire a caregiver, you have a head start. You can give the training manual to the new person to read before they start and they can use it as a reference for those first days when you leave them on their own. This doesn’t mean you won’t have to train them. You just won’t have to make yourself crazy trying to remember if you have gone over everything with them and you won’t forget to mention something important. (Keep an extra copy in a safe place. You don’t want a disgruntled employee to take off with your only copy.)

Have a kind and respectful day.

“Age in Place – Putting Your Plan Into Action” Interview with Mark Hager, the founder of Aging in Place. June 24th, 9:30 AM pst

“Age in Place – Putting Your Plan Into Action” Interview with Mark Hager, the founder of Aging in Place. June 24th, 9:30 AM pst. Call in to listen live at (347) 945-5152 or listen online at blogtalkradio.com/kindethics.

Mark Hager is the founder of AgeInPlace.com, a website focused on major topics around aging in place, including home modifications, real estate, assistive technology, finances and others. Mark also founded AgeInPlacePros.com, a website for those who provide services and goods to older people, focusing on local businesses meeting community needs brought on by the age boom. Mark is an advocate of planning responsibly for late life to lessen the impact on people, their families and communities. As well as, assisting local businesses prosper while serving those in their communities.

He will be answering the common questions people have about aging in place.

Have a kind and respectful day.

Taking The Car Keys Away Part 2 – Dealing with the Emotions

I have been surprised by how many people have contacted me about the issue of taking the car keys away from a loved one. What I want to add to the discussion is that we have to remember to address the emotional issues being experienced by the person losing their driving privileges. They should be angry. They should be sad. These are normal emotions as they come to terms with not only the loss of driving but the loss of their mental and physical abilities. It is a good idea to sit with them and let them speak their mind. All you have to do is listen. Don’t defend yourself. Don’t defend the doctor. Just listen. As you hear their words, think about the day when you will lose your driving privileges and find compassion for your loved one.

One technique you can use is something called active listening. With active listening, what you do is to repeat back the words and the emotions you are hearing. For example, when your mom says, “I am so mad at you for telling the doctor that I shouldn’t be driving anymore.” What you can say is, “I understand that you’re really mad at me mom and that you wish I hadn’t told the doctor.” Your natural instinct is to defend yourself or to explain the reasons you did what you did. This conversation is not about facts, it is about emotions. Just hear your mom’s heart and allow her to experience her feelings. It will probably take a while as you listen and acknowledge her feelings. As she feels heard, she will calm down. And it may take a number of conversations so don’t be upset about this. Don’t you sometimes have to vent more than once about something you are dealing with in your life? Just accept that this is part of her healing process. Hopefully over time, she will come to terms with this loss and move on in her life. But don’t expect her to be happy about losing her ability to drive. It will always be a disappointment.

Lastly, I encourage you to take a look at the first part of the HBO Alzheimer’s special found online at http://www.hbo.com/alzheimers/. It is called, “The Memory Loss Tapes” episode. About halfway through this first section, a woman whose doctor has recommended she stopped driving is put through a driving evaluation test. It is shocking to see how bad it has gotten and that to realize that she just recently lost her privileges. This woman has been a danger on the road for a long time. Please take action sooner than later and save lives.

Part 1, When should I take away the car keys? http://tinyurl.com/c9zjqp

Have a kind and respectful day

Jacqueline Marcell, Author of Elder Rage, May 19th, 5PM pst, on blogtalkradio.com/kindethics – “Strategies for Dealing with the Difficult Aging Parent.”

I will be interviewing Jacqueline Marcell, Author of Elder Rage, May 19th, 5PM pst, on blogtalkradio.com/kindethics – “Strategies for Dealing with the Difficult Aging Parent.”

It is my pleasure to introduce you to JACQUELINE MARCELL – (949) 975-1012

JACQUELINE MARCELL was so compelled by caring for her elderly parents, both with early Alzheimer’s not properly diagnosed for over a year, that once she figured everything out she gave up her stalled career as a television executive to become an advocate for eldercare awareness and reform. She is the devoted daughter in her best-selling book, Elder Rage (www.ElderRage.com) a Book-of-the-Month Club selection being considered for a film. Over 50 endorsements include: Hugh Downs, Regis Philbin, Johns Hopkins Memory Clinic, and the National Adult Day Services Association who honored her with their Media Award. She also received “Advocate of the Year” from the National Association of Women Business Owners at their Remarkable Women Awards.

Jacqueline is a sought-after international speaker who has spoken at hundreds of events including to the National Security Agency and Florida House of Representatives. She’s been interviewed on the TODAY SHOW and CNN, and was featured on the cover of the AARP BULLETIN. Jacqueline also hosts a radio show, Coping with Caregiving on wsRadio.com, where 7 years of her interviews with healthcare professionals are archived for free listening-on-demand: www.wsRadio.com/CopingWithCaregiving. She also writes columns for AgingCare.com (www.agingcare.com/Experts/1108/Caregiving) and ThridAge.com (www.thirdage.com/expert-voices/jacqueline-marcell), and as a breast cancer survivor, Jacqueline advocates that everyone, especially caregivers, closely monitor their own health. Her website is www.ElderRage.com.

JACQUELINE’S MISSIONS ARE TO: encourage long-term care planning; enlighten healthcare professionals how they can better help the families they work with; empower caregivers with solutions and hope, and to always put their own health first; encourage funding for Alzheimer’s research and heighten early diagnosis awareness; expose elder abuse and exploitation; advocate for funding for Adult Day Care Services; and to help improve eldercare laws.

KEY POINT: The importance of EARLY diagnosis and treatment of Alzheimer’s–and that there can still be a good life after a diagnosis of dementia, if it is properly balanced medically and behaviorally.

STARTLING ELDERCARE STATISTICS

• There are 78 million US Baby Boomers (those born 1946-1964) among 300 million. Every year, more than 50 million Americans provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend.

• The average life expectancy at the turn of the last century was 47. With advances in medicine, in 2008, average life expectancy is 82.1 for males and 85 for women.

• By 2025, there will be over 62 million Americans over the age of 65–almost double in 25 years.

• The fastest growing segment of our population is the 85+ group–and half of them need some help with personal care.

• Over 5.1 million Americans have Alzheimer’s–more than double since 1980. 1 in 10 say they have a family member with Alzheimer’s, and 1 in 3 say they know someone with the disease.

• Alzheimer’s does not happen overnight. It begins to attack the brain 10 to 20 years before the first symptoms. A person will live an average of 8 and as many as 20 years from the onset of symptoms.

• Increasing age is the greatest risk factor for Alzheimer’s. 1 in 8 over age 65, and nearly half over the age of 85 are afflicted. Rare, inherited forms can even strike victims in their 30’s and 40’s.

• More than 7 out of 10 people with Alzheimer’s live at home, where their family and friends provide 75% of their care. The remaining 25% is paid-for care costing an average of $19,000 per year–which families pay mostly all out-of-pocket.

• By 2012, 75% of Americans age 65 and over will require long-term care–an estimated 43% to spend time in a nursing home. Half of all nursing home residents have Alzheimer’s or a related dementia.

• The annual cost of Alzheimer’s care in the U.S. is at least $100 BILLION. With 78 million Baby Boomers reaching their Golden Years soon, our health care system will be overcome, bankrupting Medicare and Medicaid.

• The estimated annual value of all types of informal caregiving is $257 BILLION.

• Medicare expenditures for people with Alzheimer’s are nearly 3 times higher than the average for all beneficiaries. Half of all Medicare beneficiaries with dementia also receive Medicaid because they have exhausted their own resources.

• Alzheimer’s Disease costs American business $61 BILLION a year–60% of that is the cost of the lost productivity and absenteeism of workers having to take time off to care for their sick loved ones.

• By delaying the onset of Alzheimer’s Disease in individuals for five years, we could save 50% in annual health care costs. Even a one-month delay in nursing home placement is estimated to be able to save $1 BILLION a year. Early diagnosis and treatment is the key.

Viki Kind interviews Dale Carter, “When you get that emergency call about your loved one being ill.” Tuesday, May 5th at 11AM, PST. www.blogtalkradio.com/kindethics

Viki Kind interviews Dale Carter, “When you get that emergency call about your loved one being ill.”  Tuesday,  May 5th at 11AM, PST.  www.blogtalkradio.com/kindethics

Dale Carter has had personal experience getting the call that her mom was ill in another state.  And the panic and helplessness it caused.  Now she is another year wiser and more experienced and would like to share what she has learned.
About Dale Carter
* long-distance caregiver to her elderly mother
* founder of the blog, Transition Aging Parents
* author of the Ecourse, “Five Essential Strategies to Help your Aging Parent Face Change”
* mentor on the new social networking site, TheCircle.org (launching May 1st)
* nursing home volunteer

Dale created Transition Aging Parents blog as a way to share my experience and reach out to other adult children of aging parents.  Dale provides insight and shares information and resources to help adult daughters and sons ensure their aging parents “thrive and find joy in every stage of life”.
Dale believes one of the most important gifts we can give our parents is to educate ourselves and be our parent’s advocate and ally.

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