How do you solve Nurses Moral Distress? Moral Courage – Part 1

Usually I get hired to teach doctors about ethics, communication and improving end-of-life care. Even though I am rarely hired by hospitals to help nurses with the ethical dilemmas they face, it is a privilege for me when I do get to work with them. (Hospitals will pay for the education of doctors but will pay far less money on nursing education.) When I have done ethics rounds with small groups of nurses, tears are shed, stories are told and then I can go through their story and help them work through the experience. Hopefully, they feel better after being heard. They still carry the moral burden of their actions or inactions in the cases from years ago. Sometimes all I can do is to acknowledge their grief and let them know that their instincts were right, even though they felt they were powerless at the time. Then I can help them strategize about how they would solve a similar situation in the future.

Because nurses come into their profession with such compassion and big hearts, their moral distress when witnessing terrible situations is a greater burden to them. Doctors have moral distress as well, but today, I want to talk about the nurses. What is moral distress? It is the distress you feel when you know something is ethically or morally wrong and you feel powerless to change it. And I don’t know about you, but I feel terrible when I feel powerless. Especially when you feel like you’re being forced into taking part in something you know is wrong. I know for the people reading this that aren’t nurses, you might be thinking, “Why doesn’t the nurse just speak up? Why don’t they just say no?” It’s not that simple. That’s not how it works in medicine. Nurses are supposed to follow the doctor’s orders. Just like in the military, you follow the orders of the commander above you. Now, it is much better than it used to be in the past and had nurses have a greater voice on the healthcare team, but it is still difficult to stand up to certain doctors or in certain situations, especially when you think you might get in trouble. So I understand the dilemma nurses find themselves in. But as an ethicist, and I have to say that we need to have moral courage. Otherwise, things will never change. We need to be willing to speak up when we see something that is wrong. If this was easy to do, we wouldn’t call it courage.

The other day I was speaking to a person whose parent was the victim of elder abuse at the hands of a relative. The doctors and nurses saw what was going on. But nobody said anything or reported anything, so nothing was done. The abuse continued because nobody had the moral courage to say no, “This isn’t right.” Another common thing that I see is when a medical error is going to happen and a nurse speaks up to the doctor and says, “I think this medication/treatment plan might be wrong.” Then the doctor may say, “Don’t tell me what to do. Just follow my orders as I have written them.” So what does the nurse do? Well, the first thing she or he does is to experience moral distress. You know it is wrong and you’ve tried to speak up and that didn’t work. Are you going to go to your supervisor? Are you going to refuse to give the medicine or participate in the treatment? What do you do next? If you go to the supervisor, does the supervisor support you and confront the doctor? Maybe no, maybe yes. And maybe you don’t think you have a choice but to give a treatment that you know is wrong. No matter what, you always have a choice. You have your voice.

One thing you can do as a nurse is to take these issues to the bioethics committee at your hospital. You don’t have to be certain that the situation is an ethical dilemma or a moral problem. You can just run it by the person on call and ask for help in evaluating the situation. (You can also use the chaplain for moral support.) Or you can take your concerns to risk management, the medical staff department or administration. Follow the chain of command but don’t give up. You have to persevere to keep the patient safe. This takes courage but I believe in you. You have the moral courage.

I have the moral courage to speak up when I see unethical behavior. And I am no more special than you. Sometimes I get in trouble for speaking up, and sometimes I don’t. But I will continue to speak up because maybe you are the patient in one of my hospitals and I am going to keep you safe. I want to encourage you to do the right thing because I might be a patient in your hospital some day. I might need you to protect me from someone or something that will harm me. I will show you the same respect.

Have a kind and respectful day.

Say Thank You To A Nurse Today. May 6th – 12th is National Nurse Week.

May 6th – 12th is National Nurse Week

I want to say thank you, thank you, thank you to all of the nurses. Whether you are a hospital nurse, a home health nurse, an office nurse, a nursing home nurse, a surgical nurse, a hospice nurse or some other type of nurse, thanks for everything you do. And thanks for putting up with the doctors. And thanks for putting up with the patients and their families. We all don’t make it easy for you. But you still show up and take care of us.
I truly appreciate you and hope you will keep being a nurse. We need you. I encourage every one to do something nice for a nurse today. Maybe send a thank you note to the nurse that works at your doctor’s office or drop off a healthy treat. If your loved one is in a care facility, do something nice for the nurses there. Maybe offer to volunteer one day a month and help with meals at the skilled nursing facility. Anything you can do will help. We already have a shortage of nurses so if we want the future to be safe for us, be nice to a nurse today and remember to thank them all year long.